Anxiety and Depression chat/advice

Many people experience depression and/or anxiety, it’s nothing to be ashamed of as it can affect anyone- rich or poor, fat or thin, ‘attractive’ or ‘unattractive’, successful or unsuccessful- mental health illnesses don’t have a specific type of person it goes for so those fighting it should never be afraid to ask for help whether it’s from friends and family, a doctor or mental health specialist, or even like minded people in support groups (online and in person) as no one should suffer in silence there’s always someone there to help you. However to be helped you must help yourself a little (good start is to admit you need help) it is not weak to ask for help, infact it takes a lot of strength and courage to get the help you need.


The best method I have found for coping with depression is to learn how to recognise when you’re mood and feelings have changed/are changing and distract yourself before it takes over. It is perfectly natural and normal to cry, so if you are feeling teary allow yourself a moment to cry, but only allow a short time without letting it over power you; distraction is key. If I have had a moment to cry or feel my mood getting low I do something whether it’s writing, reading, colouring, playing a game, or listening to music. Music for me is my main tool. Everyone has certain songs that uplift them and even make them want to dance (one of mine is from the Disney film Mulan called Make A Man Outta You) so throw on your ‘happy music’ and sing and dance like you’re on a stage, it’s what helps me the most so it may work for you too. I also find that putting on some makeup or getting dressed and going for a walk helps get me out of a low mood as it stops me wallowing and feeling generally crappy.


Anxiety can be a huge pain in the arse to deal with, but I’ve found a few different ways of coping. The first method I use is called Grounding. This is when you place your hands on something flat and sturdy, applying a little pressure, and count to 10 at whatever pace you want and however many times you need to; this method brings you back down to earth from getting anxious and worked up. Another method is to concentrate on your breathing- for example inhaling through your nose to the count of 7, holding it to the count of 3, and exhaling to the count of 7 through your mouth- this method will regulate erratic breathing and raised heart rate, making you feel calmer. Taking a moment to step out of a situation making you anxious will help you cope with it better, for example many people find crowds set off their anxiety so if you can take yourself away from it for a moment to reassure yourself that you’re ok and not being smothered, it can calm you down enough to then go back to the activity with a level head again. If you know you’re going somewhere that triggers your anxiety, then take someone with you for moral support to help you feel more comfortable and even distract you.


Many people find that meditation helps with depression and anxiety (it personally doesn’t work for me but I know people who do benefit from meditating). This can be done in meditation classes/groups, or at home by yourself if you prefer (there are multiple videos available on YouTube that help with meditation) 


Some people are prescribed medication for their mental health issues, and it is important that you take them as advised by your doctor. However, medication isn’t for everyone (I don’t take any) as there are other treatments available such as CBT (cognitive behavior therapy) that you can be referred for by your doctor. Everyone is different, and there’s no shame in whether you need medication or not. 


If you need help and support regarding your mental health, please do not hesitate to talk to someone about it. There are various support lines and charities that help those with mental health issues, if you search on Google you’ll find various sources to help and phone numbers to call (I haven’t included any as there are different ones for different countries, but they’re all easy enough to search for, if you can’t find what you’re looking for then your doctor can point you in the right direction). Mental health illnesses do not define who you are, and it doesn’t make you any less of a person. Don’t allow the stigmas to stop you asking for help. Speak up, don’t bottle up.


πŸ”Ήimmeamy, you’re you, and that’s the best way to beπŸ”Ή 


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