I hate these specific weeks for things. Mental health awareness should be every single day of the year not just a week in May. But, atleast it’s got people speaking out I guess!
1 in 4 people will experience mental health issues on all different scales (you could have a room full of people with the same diagnosis, but every single person will be effected differently and handle things differently) I am one of those people that has struggled with mental health in the past, and still fight it today.
I’ve mentioned in previous posts about depression and suicide attempts, and although I no longer have the suicidal or harmful thoughts (and haven’t for a few years) I still have days where my depression will kick in and make me feel awful, aswell as battling anxiety and panic (that started when I had taken my daughter home for the first time and I developed agoraphobia thanks to certain people making me scared of my own shadow) I don’t have agoraphobia anymore, but I do still struggle with anxiety and some days it’s pretty extreme whereas others I’m fine, something as little as the sound of a low flying air craft or a house creek in the night can set my anxiety and panic off and it’s exhausting aswell as scary.
It’s ok not to be ok, it’s natural to not feel ontop of the world every single day. But, don’t allow it to consume you. If you wake up feeling low, don’t sit around dwelling on it and thinking about how awful you feel, make yourself get up and do something to distract yourself even something simple like writing, drawing, reading or going for a walk can help you to escape your mind for a bit. I’m not saying it will get rid of the low mood completely, but it will stop it from consuming you totally and making you feel worse. Distraction is the main thing I do when I’m having a bad day. It’s also perfectly natural to cry whether you’re male or female, but again don’t let it consume you. If you feel as though you need to cry, put on a film that you know makes you emotional (mine is usually something like Marley And Me, The Notebook, My Sisters Keeper) and allow yourself to cry to that as that way you feel as if you’re crying for a reason rather than just ‘crying for the sake of it’ in a sense. It kind of ‘justifies’ your crying when you feel like you need to cry but have no idea why (not that crying needs justification, but sometimes giving it a physical reason helps) that probably makes no sense at all but I know what I mean and hopefully anyone reading does too!
It’s important to speak out about mental health, and to listen to those speaking out. Suicide rates are absolutely ridiculously high, and most if not all of them could of been stopped if they had the support they so desperately needed. There’s such a nasty stigma around mental health that people are too scared to speak out. You are NOT going to be dragged away kicking and screaming to a psychiatric hospital for saying you need help, being sectioned doesn’t work like that- people only get sectioned when it’s for their own safety or safety of others around them and need a serious amount of help- coming out and telling someone you feel anxious or depressed will not get you put into a psychiatric hospital so get that worry out of your head. You’ll only be sectioned if you really need to be, because in all honesty it costs the hospitals too much to just section anyone and everyone! Doctors are there to help you, if you feel as though your doctor isn’t listening or helping then see a different doctor until you feel comfortable. Some people need medication to help them, and that’s perfectly fine it doesn’t make you any less of a person- sometimes people need an extra bit of help if therapy etc doesn’t work efficiently for them. (Like I said above, everyone is different and handles things differently)
I am ALWAYS here for ANYONE to talk to about anything with a non judgemental listening ear and a shoulder to cry on if needed along with realistic advice if wanted. I know what it’s like to feel alone in darkness, and I’d never wish that on anyone which is why I happily listen and try to help anyone I can. So please if anyone reading this feels they have no one to talk to, talk to me. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to a stranger first before a friend or family member. My email address is firstname.lastname@example.org if anyone needs a chat or vent.